I have been cosleeping with my daughter since she was a newborn. Now she is 9 months old and we are still cosleeping. I nurse her to sleep and I nurse her on demand during the night. Now I have read in one of my baby books that at her age I should not even be rocking her to sleep, let alone nursing her to sleep. That she should learn how to fall asleep on her own. I have believed in just letting her be a baby and trying my best to meet her emotional need to be near me. When I look at her I think to myself 'she is just a little girl - she isn't ready to be independent yet.' But should I be taking small steps to her independence?
She rejects the cup. She eats a pretty good breakfast and supper of solid foods (and lunch sometimes). I don't have much of an issue with her sleeping habits even though she does not sleep through the night. She goes to sleep at my breast and her father or I lay her down in her crib at around 8. She wakes anytime between 11pm and 1am and at that point I usually take her into my bed, nurse her to sleep, and we sleep together for the rest of the night. If she wakes I nurse her.
I'm wondering if I should stop? She takes one good nap in the middle of the day (around 1 or 2pm) and I often let her nap in my arms or on my lap as I read a book or chat with my friends on the computer. I feel like I'm supposed to stop, but I look at her face and can see it makes her so happy and content to be cuddled up to me. I think I'm being too soft. I like to keep her near me for most of the day as well, although I'm not constantly focused on entertaining her. I do put her down in her playpen to play alone for a bit while I get my cooking done.
She has no teeth yet. She also has no interest in finger foods. She can stand holding onto things and she can cruise around the room. Sometimes she wakes in my bed at night wanting to play, and starts crawling around the bed. Sometimes I worry she may fall off one day, but I have my mattress on the floor, although the mattress itself is really thick so it would still be a bit of a fall. Every time she wakes up I wake up too, though, and try to rock her to sleep. If she won't go back to sleep I try to rock her to sleep, which works sometimes, and if it doesn't I put her into her crib where she plays around a bit for 10-15 minutes. When she cries for me to come back I usually let her cry for a minute or two, and then I take her back into my bed and at that point she is usually ready to go back to sleep.
Am I doing this wrong? What should I change?