I understand this is rare, but I have experienced it, and there is a frustrating lack of support or information. I'm now pregnant with my second baby, and I'm after some practical information that might help prevent me going through this all over again.
Evie's birth was all natural, calm and beautiful, but she was sleepy and wouldn't latch straight off. My midwife and I tried expressing some of my colostrum, we managed about 0.5 mls. When I gave Evie these precious drops, she didn't swallow and they were wasted.
In the first few days, Evie didn't really wake, it would take me hours to wake her enough to latch.
although latching and feeding looked ok to my untrained eye, it turned out she wasn't getting anything. There were no wet nappies, she became badly jaundiced, and after 4 days had lost 12% of her body weight.
We called in consultants and took all the help we could find. I was pumping every 4 hours day and night (after giving E a good go) but nothing was coming. I took all the supplements, and the drugs, E and I took to our bed and just cuddled...but nothing bought the milk in. It just never came.
After all the pumping, and drugs etc. I was managing maybe 20mls per day (which is a pathetic amount at any time, but especially after 20m pumping at 1am!). I never got any engorgement, or any other signs that my boobs were up to much.
We managed to give Evie almost solely donated breast milk for the first 3mths (which was a mission, and milk is not regulated here in NEw Zealand, so we had to make our own contacts and do our own checks, it was quite nerve wracking).
I gave up pumping etc when Evie was 4 mths
I felt TERRIBLE the whole time. All the information out there tells me that breast feeding is possible if you try hard enough, and if its not working, it's essentially my fault.
I did everything I could possibly imagine to get this to work, but it did not.
Now that I'm pregnant again, I'm forewarned about what might happen. So I am again on the hunt for information, perhaps there's something I missed, perhaps I could express colostrum before birth so if this baby is sleepy, I at least have something in had to give it...any other thoughts?
All ideas are very gratefully received.
Thanks for listening!