First of all, I wanted to say that I don't know how I would have managed to get as far as I did with nursing, was it not for the support of my local LLL leader and all of you, wonderful ladies.
Sorry if below is long, but I want to give the full story.
My daughter is 15 months old and doing great, but she is small weight-wise (oscillates between 1%-4%, but staying on her grown curve). She is growing really well length-wise (45%) and is otherwise developing great. My mom tells me I was also very slim as a baby (and I was formula-fed).
I work full-time, and I stopped pumping about 3 months ago. She gets 2-4 oz of frozen breastmilk from my stash during the day (though somedays she doesn't even ask for it), and eat solids. She is somewhat of a picky eater (it takes her a while to warm up to new foods), so her repertoire is somewhat limited. Also, she is a grazer, she never eats large portions (again, according to my mom I was, and still is, the same way).
We cosleep and she nurses 3+ at night. On weekends she also nurses 4+ times during the day.
So today, at her 15 months check-up the pediatrician asked me if my daughter is sleeping through the night yet. I should have lied, but I felt weird doing it, so I said, no. She then proceeded to tell me following:
- my daughter should be sleeping through the night (it's bad for her that she is not)
- she doesn't eat enough during the day because I nurse her at night
- my daughter would start eating larger portions of food during the day if I don't nurse her at night
- my daughter would eat fatty foods (e.g. avocado, butter, peanut butter) that she currently rejects during the day if I stop nursing her at night
I completely lost it. Maybe it's also because I've been contemplating night-weaning her myself (and feel guilty about it). But the logic of what she was saying just didn't make sense to me.
At the last appointment a different doctor at the practice told me that I *have* to push and get my daughter to accept drinking whole milk (she never liked it, but likes drinkable yogurt). Now this one tells me to night-wean because that would increase my daugher's weight. When I told her that I don't need a lecture on sleep and parental advice she insisted that this is *medical advice*.
I got super-upset and started arguing with her (bad idea, right?) I guess I'm just looking for some support. I feel pretty sh*tty about myself and the whole situation.