Re: Finding a Balance
If you can, find a calm time of day when neither one of you are too stressed or tired, and tell your DH exactly what you need. I suggest making the following points:
1. He is a wonderful dad and partner.
2. You know that the arrival of the new baby has thrown some turmoil into your relationship, and you know that has been difficult for both of you.
3. You need his support during this time.
4. Support means no sneaking formula bottles behind your back. Even though his other kids- who are wonderful!- were EFF, that is not how YOU, the MOM, want to feed this child.
5. Support means no more derogatory comments like "You look like a cow" or "He's a titty-baby." Even if he thinks those comments are funny, they are not. They are hurtful.
6. Once breastfeeding is going better, the two of you can revisit the bottle issue and perhaps incorporate some bottle-feedings into your day.
Coolest thing my big girl said recently: "How can you tell the world is moving when you are standing on it?"
Coolest thing my little girl sang recently: "I love dat one-two pupples!"