Re: Coming to an end
Weaning cold turkey is generally advised against because it can set a mom up for engorgement, plugged ducts, or mastitis. But if you have been nursing pretty minimally up to this point- say just a couple of times a day- you have weaned gradually and you're probably good to drop both sessions at once. If you're nursing more like 4-5 times a day, or even more than that, I think you may need to throttle back on your plan and nurse or express if you start feeling overfull.
Getting past nursing to sleep is really difficult, in my experience. For me, it's the feeding I keep the longest because it's the easiest way to get a toddler to bed. If you are certain you want to wean, you're just going to need to be tough and not nurse even if she's crying, tantruming, or staying up until all hours. Having someone else handle bedtime is often the best way to avd a nursing-related meltdown.
I hope you feel better soon! And... Since it sounds like weaning is something you're not 100% ready for, just remember that you can change your mind. If you suddenly decide you'd like to nurse again, your LO may go right back to nursing. And we'll be happy to help with any challenges toddler nursing may bring!
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