Happy Mothers Breastfed Babies
Page 1 of 2 12 LastLast
Results 1 to 10 of 18

Thread: failure to thrive, was told to wean

  1. #1
    Join Date
    Jan 2010
    Posts
    166

    Default failure to thrive, was told to wean

    Hi Ladies:

    I got back from our 2 year checkup and my pediatrician seemed nonchalant about her weight remaining the same for the last six months (21.5 pounds) he said I could opt to see a nutritionist now or in three months. (Her height, head and other development milestones are fine.)I said the sooner the better and he said he'd arrange for a referral. So when I contacted his office this morning to get the info (instead of waiting for it in the mail) I found out that she had been diagnosed as "failure to thrive" and the referral was actually to a hospital instead of the outpatient nutritionist.

    He has been pressuring me to wean since 18 months due to her low weight and that just seems counter intuitive. My constant argument has been that if she isn't getting enough nutrients then cutting off breastmilk to be replaced with cows milk is just plain stupid. Call me defensive but it just doesn't make sense that it is our nursing that is causing this issue.

    I realize I am in the minority here with nursing a 2 year old 5-8 times a day. I do suggest other food that she eats 50 percent of the time but she just wants to nurse. I follow her cues. But now with the referral to the hospital nutritionist I'm concerned that nursing is going to be under attack again. We nurse in the afternoon before bed and a couple times during the night or morning.

    For the record she is an incredibly verbal and responsive child. She climbs, runs and plays hard. She mainly eats cereal, whole milk yogurt, whole string cheese, tofu, mac and cheese, noodles and cheese, grean beans, toasted bread, broccoli, bananas, oatmeal with flax seed, raisins, pears, apples, oranges, broiled carrots ... just not a LOT. Actually the only thing she will eat a lot of are these no salt organic corn chips from trader joes. She'll eat those until the cows come home and within the last day or so I've been continuing to give them to her without any restriction. After reading the label they have iron, fat and fiber and no sodium so she can go to town on those if she wants.

    So basically I'm wondering if any other ladies had pressure to wean in a toddler due to slow weight gain. My gut is saying to continue nursing as long as she asks for it (I'm fine with it, no problem on my end). I'm wondering if she's got an allergy, intolerance, or possibly celiac but her symptoms are so elusive and inconsistent. I'm sure there is a reason she is nursing so much and I'm relieved we will get help from a nutritionist ... but i need some support because I'm scared the nutritionist is also going to really force the weaning since our extended nursing is exceptional.

    Any tips for dealing with the nutritionist? I WANT my daughter to gain weight to be more "normal" but i really don't want to further complicate the problem by eliminating nursing. And I also don't want them to flag my insistence on nursing as a behavioral issue that might be contributing to her lack of desire to eat food.

    Your help is appreciated.

    Thanks. <3
    being a SAHM to DD born 12/09

  2. #2
    Join Date
    May 2006
    Posts
    21,176

    Default Re: failure to thrive, was told to wean

    I am so sorry you're getting pressure on the weaning front! I think that your doc's advice is simply stupid: why replace human milk with cow's milk, when you don't even know if your child will drink enough of it to make a difference? . I'd see a different pediatrician. My understanding is that FTT is a diagnosis which requires more than low weight. You also have to see failure to grow in height or head circumference, or failure to master milestones at an appropriate pace.

    I think that when you go in to speak to the nutritionist, just treat nursing as non-negotiable. If the nutritionist says "wean" you can respond with "I will not do that, so let's focus on things we can do aside from that."
    Last edited by @llli*mommal; February 3rd, 2012 at 04:05 PM.
    Coolest thing my big girl said recently: "How can you tell the world is moving when you are standing on it?"
    Coolest thing my little girl sang recently: "I love dat one-two pupples!"

  3. #3
    Join Date
    Jun 2011
    Location
    Southern NM
    Posts
    712

    Default Re: failure to thrive, was told to wean

    Instead of defending your choices, make them defend theirs. Why should you wean? What advantage would that be in her diet? What is better about cow's milk than breast milk?

    You could also go in with the attitude that the nutritionist will agree with you. You say, "she still nurses 5-8 times a day, which of course is great for her since it is very healthy for her."
    I am Erin--happily married to the nerd of my dreams for 15 years
    High School Science Teacher
    Mother to: Thing 1 9/23/01, bf 15 mo, diagnosed with stage 4 neuroblastoma 1/29/02, officially cancer free for ten years in August 2012
    Thing 2 6/6/05, bf 12 mo, obsessed with dynamite
    Glowworm 2/18/11, bf 15 months and counting

  4. #4
    Join Date
    Jul 2007
    Posts
    528

    Default Re: failure to thrive, was told to wean

    DD2 was FTT, from what we were told it is lack of growth in any dimension for an extended time. We saw a pediatric GI and he was concerned about brain growth, he said that head circumference is not a valid way to measure brain growth. He said it is outdated and does not tell much. He did mention that she might eat more food if she didn't nurse but in our case, she wouldn't nurse very much either. She was big too, 22 lbs at 9 mths and still was 22 lbs at 17 mths. They said they don't care how big, they just want a progression. We did an endoscopy and it didn't show much. I would try and get referred to a ped GI, they are much more knowledgeable then just a pediatrician. We resorted to some practices that I am not very proud of, feeding high fat greek yogurt in front of the TV after dinner, following her around stuffing food in whenever I could. It worked tho and she gained and we now have no worries about her brain. Just wanted to share our experience...
    Mom to Abigail, born May 3rd, 2007 (self-weaned at 27 mths) and Charlotte, born Nov. 24th, 2009. Both reflux babies and EBF. Charlotte weighs 31 lbs at 26 mths.

  5. #5
    Join Date
    Nov 2011
    Posts
    429

    Default Re: failure to thrive, was told to wean

    Wow your doc is silly. How on earth is cows milk better than breastmilk? I wouldn't wean if I were you and the PPs have great advice.
    Melissa

    Young SAHM of
    Afton (A1) (1/24/09) and
    Autumn (A2) (8/29/11)

    Sealed in the SLC Temple

    and and now CDing!

  6. #6
    Join Date
    Nov 2009
    Posts
    264

    Default Re: failure to thrive, was told to wean

    I have no experience with FFT but I would not wean if that were the case. I am still nursing my 2 1/2 year old son and he nurses about 5 or 6 times a day. Most days he eats pretty well at meals but only usually 2 a day. He refuse to eat breakfast. "milky" is all he has until lunch and possibly a few bites of cereal. The doctor has never said aything about his weight. He is about 28 lbs and 35 inches tall. he is very active and my doctor knows that I only serve very healthy food so I don't get any complaints. I would let them know that you are continuing to nurse and that is the end of it. They need to help you and respect your decision.


    my name is Sarah mother to
    Alana 12/31/98
    Conner 5/30/09

    Breastfeeding 3 years and counting!

    Potty trained at 2 but kind of miss those cute CD's!

    "Of all the rights of women, the greastest is to be a mother." Lin Yutang

  7. #7
    Join Date
    Jan 2010
    Posts
    166

    Default Re: failure to thrive, was told to wean

    Thanks Ladies. We see the nutritionist on Monday. I'll stick to my "guns"

    I'm hoping it will go well.

    <3
    being a SAHM to DD born 12/09

  8. #8
    Join Date
    Sep 2011
    Location
    Boring ole Michigan
    Posts
    205

    Default Re: failure to thrive, was told to wean

    Let us know how it went!
    July 27 2011

  9. #9
    Join Date
    Jan 2010
    Posts
    166

    Default Re: failure to thrive, was told to wean

    Just a quick update ... our nutritionist gave us some great tips for getting DD to eat more. Really simple stuff regarding meal spacing and presentation. So far it is working and DD is happy. She suspects allergies because of her rashes but for now we are keeping a food journal and seeing how the month goes. Oh and she thought our pediatrician was totally off base by recommending weaning. She turned out to be a total ally and said not to drop any feedings as they weren't interfering with her meals.

    Abaker89, we did get a referral to a joint allergy/GI pediatric dual visit for next month because of a suspicious rash and impossible to treat constipation. The nutritionist said the allergist wasn't so concerned with her length or head circumference but that her weight was the major concern. What did the endoscopy procedure entail? Were there other steps before the endoscopy or do they typically want to jump right in?
    being a SAHM to DD born 12/09

  10. #10
    Join Date
    Jun 2011
    Location
    Southern NM
    Posts
    712

    Default Re: failure to thrive, was told to wean

    Isn't it wonderful when something that you think is going to be hard becomes really helpful! It sounds like you got a good nutritionist.
    I am Erin--happily married to the nerd of my dreams for 15 years
    High School Science Teacher
    Mother to: Thing 1 9/23/01, bf 15 mo, diagnosed with stage 4 neuroblastoma 1/29/02, officially cancer free for ten years in August 2012
    Thing 2 6/6/05, bf 12 mo, obsessed with dynamite
    Glowworm 2/18/11, bf 15 months and counting

Tags for this Thread

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
  •