Re: Timing feedings
Welcome to the forum and congratulations on the new baby!
I know it's really, really hard to know who to listen to when you are a first-time mom. There's so much advice out there and it's all so different. But I would encourage you NOT to listen to your mom's advice or your doctor's advice. It is the sort of advice that can derail breastfeeding, and result in a baby not gaining enough weight. Here's why: first, milk supply is created and maintained by demand. Restrict demand by spacing out feedings, and your supply will drop. A schedule may work at first, when your milk supply is equal to baby's needs, but eventually your body reads the spaced-out feedings and reduced stimulation to the breast as low demand and reduces supply. That's often when babies suddenly become desperate to nurse and thefore very resistant to soaced-out feedings. Second, spaced-out feedings do not make a baby eat "meals" instead of "snacks". Infant tummies are tiny, and even when hungry breastfed babies will not take in huge amounts of food. A breastfed baby will stop eating when she feels her tummy filling up. Third, breastmilk digests fast, usually in about 90 minutes. Frequent feedings are NORMAL for a breastfed baby, with many breastfed babies eating every 1-2 hours. Fourth, many babies do something called "cluster feeding", taking many small meals in a short time period in order to store up calories for a longer stretch of sleep. Spaced-out feedings can mean no long sleep stretches- if you're getting any. Fifth, babies who are frantic with hunger tend to latch less well than those who are just a bit hungry. If you're having latch problems, spaced-out feedings can make them worse.
I strongly encourage you to return to on-demand feeding, and to see a lactation consultant, preferably an IBCLC, about your baby's latch. Inverted nipples can be challenging to nurse on, and they are almost certainly responsible for your soreness. Frequent demand, even constant demand, won't make you sore if the baby's latch is good.
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