Re: feeding frustrations-4 day old baby
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When you say your milk "hasn't come in yet", what do you mean, exactly? Most moms see the onset of milk production within 2-5 days of birth. It's now 5 days since your baby was born, so if you don't have milk by tonight you need to see your doctor or midwife. But I suspect that you do have milk, and are mistaking the phenomenon of milk "coming in" for things that people commonly associate with milk coming in, which is feelings of fullness or engorgement.
So, if the stuff you're pumping is a creamy yellowish white, that's milk. If it's translucent cloudy gold, it's colostrum and you haven't started making mature milk yet.
Basically, I am with DJs.mom and Evolvingmama: you want to avoid the bottles and just nurse the baby. Stop worrying about "keeping up" with her and just nurse her as much as she will take- no bottles, no pacifiers- and watch diaper output. As long as diaper output is normal, she is getting enough to eat.
I'd love for you to see a professional for hands-on help. So call your local La Leche League and your local LCs, preferably the IBCLCs.
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