Re: At the end of my rope...
I'm sorry you're feeling so stressed out about all of this! I wonder if you could try another visit with a different lactation consultant? Or maybe call up your local La Leche League Leader? I understand why you would be worried about your baby with the early issues, but it really sounds like your supply might be on target right now. If I understand what you are saying, though, about the other day - you nursed her for 24 hours, and she got two 3 ounce bottles - one of which you pumped that same day? So you only supplemented her with 3 ounces on top of what you actually produced that day? And in all that time she acted normal, had normal diaper output?
My first daughter nursed pretty much around the clock for months. She would nurse 2.5 out of every 3 hours. She would nurse and sleep on the boppy, latched on or just next to the breast. I sat on the couch for the first four months of her life, at which time I had to go back to work.
Also... about your husband being in the middle. He should not be "in the middle." When you guys got married, you formed a new family unit. You and him. And now you have your baby. His loyalty should be to you and your baby and the way that you two want to handle parenting. His mother does not get a say.
Lilah 10/08 nursed 25 months
Beatrix 01/11 nursed 30 months