Re: 4 month old got water at dc and may be eating too much?
You know, she may have nursed all of her babies, but I bet she didn't bottle feed any of them. Also, she was used to being able to nurse her babies at any time to comfort them. Has she taken care of anyone else's breastfed baby? My guess is that most of the babies that she took care of have been formula fed. And I would also guess that most people will offer a bottle to a fussy baby if they aren't nursing that particular baby. 4 ounces should be more than enough for him at one time. Have you asked her to try offering a pacifier after the bottle? Also, does she ever hold him when she's not feeding him? If the only way he gets comforted is when he gets a bottle, he will learn that he should drink the bottle even if he's not hungry in order to get held.
I would be upset about the water. It wasn't on the list of approved foods for your baby, which is your milk only at this point.
Lilah 10/08 nursed 25 months
Beatrix 01/11 nursed 30 months