I returned to work about 7 weeks ago...my baby is three months and two weeks old.
when i leave her with the sitter, she has the hardest time putting herself to sleep and cries all the time (like she misses mom ) and the sitter struggles all the time giving her the bottle...she hates it :-(
i pump at work 3-4 times a day...she was born 4lbs and 10lbs and it's now 12lbs so she is gaining weight steadily... no concerns there!
i have been told that i should introduce her to formula and that the reason she cries all the time is becasue she is so used to breastfeeding and co-sleeping all the time...so basically it's my fault :-( in part i feel like it's because i did breastfeed her on demand (whenever she cried), no bottle and she uses my breast as a pacificier.
i love, love our moments alone and co-sleeping but sometimes when i leave her with my mom at night or during the day when i have to run some errands -she wont sleep at all or eat and cries so much- so it breaks my heart to see her crying and feel bad that my mom and the sitter have to deal with her cries all the time. Becuase of it...i feel like i should introduce her to the bottle at night as well but it's a lot of work to pump and give it to her in a bottle :-( and she looks at me like i am turturing her
i am dealing with so much preassure from everybody that tells me that she is just used to my breast and that i should start introducing her to bottles and formula. And i should let her cry it out that she should be fine. And i should leave her with different people so she can used to strangers.
she cries when she is tired (nothing but my breast can calm her down) she only sleeps with me and my breast next to her she evens hugs my breast ...which i am trying to stop but sometimes i am so tired i sleep with her next to me so it's easier to feed her and i guess she is gotten so used to that
she hates the car seat cries all the time...so basically i dont like taking her anywhere...nobody can handle her but me. i cant even go to the mall with her.....she wants to nurse and she is a slow eater too. Its gotten to the point that i dont want to do or go anywhere because i dont want her to cry...she even loses her voice that's how hard she cries :-(
i would like some advices on how i get her to make herself go to sleep on her own without a fuss and to take the bottle. Sometimes i feel she misses me so much that's why she cries :-(
btw...she cries as though someone is trying to kill her and she is my first child and have waited for her soooooooooooooooooo long ...she is my everything.