Hello....am FTM and in desperate need of advice! Gave birth to my first on Nov 19th...tried to BF once born round the clock but milk hadn't come in and I was super stressed and tired out since it was round the clock "trying" to feed but to no avail and with scabbed + lipstick shaped nipples both sides. Nurses finally said I should supplement with a bit of formula since I hadn't slept for more than 30ish hours and I should really rest.
Then after first 2-3 days, baby had jaundice and hence had to stay at hospital for an extra day hence, was formula fed for that day. So from 4th day on after discharge, I have been bf'ing her plus supplementing with formula because milk supply seemed low and was advised that I should keep her on supplementing to get rid of her jaundice. Baby was doing really well (in terms of very routine schedule)...feeding every 3/4 hours and sleeping soundly in between with no crying or rooting or any hunger signs. Super peaceful.
After 1 week of BF and supplementing, and after a health check that indicated low risk of jaundice, I decided to go for EBF. First 2/3 days EBF went relatively well with baby being able to feed every 1/1.5 hours or so. Although each feeding may take up to 1 hour.
However, starting from 3 days ago (ie. 2 weeks old), she has started to wail or cry inconsolably and is constantly displaying hunger signs. Be it rooting, sticking out her tongue, sucking on her fingers. And I am not exaggerating when I say constant. I feed her all the time, as if she is permanently attached to me. She may nurse for 10-15 mins, stop, wail or unlatch and start screaming, re-latch her, and this continues the whole day. Basically, I cannot tell how long the feeding is and there is no break in between at all. Because I am so exhausted at the end of the day, I have given in to giving her some formula at night so that I can get more sleep. I know it will hurt my supply but I am just soooo tired at the end of the day. And it is so defeating to see her gulp down the formula as if it is a lifeline and I have been starving her.
I have tried various positions (currently side lying being favorite coz both of us get to rest), her latch seems ok (hear her gulping and swallowing at the beginning usually and not much pain anymore, no disfiguration) but she just continues to display hunger signs all the time. My breasts do leak when she is near or when she unlatches suddenly in the middle of feeding but when I try to pump after a feeding, I get like 0.5/1 oz (total) which makes me really worry that I'm starving my baby. She also hasn't been gaining a lot of weight...about 10/12 oz since low weight.
Have been poring through the forum and I know that supplementing with formula at night will hurt my supply, pumping is NOT a good indicator of milk supply and even if baby gulps down formula furiously does NOT mean she is necessarily starving. But I am just super worried I'm doing everything wrong, and am starving the baby since she can't sleep during the day now since she is crying for food all the time or whenever she unlatches from feeding at least. I want to wean off the nighttime formula but have been told from ppl around me how I should get more rest which helps my supply more or that I just have low supply.
What do I do? Super sorry for such a lengthy post but have been so frustrated and feeling so defeated.....