Re: making siblings vs. BFing longer
How old are you? Did you conceive easily the first time around, or did you struggle to get pregnant? The reason I ask is that if you're a younger mom without a history of fertility issues, I think you can very safely nurse for at least a year- or more, since on average nursing moms get their fertility back around 15 months postpartum even if they continue to nurse- and not worry one bit that it's going to take a long time to conceive baby number two. Let's say you weaned at a year or so and then it took you a year to get pregnant. Your kids would still end up less than 3 years apart, and siblings can be very close even when there are several years between them. My siblings and I are living proof of that (5 years between me and my brother, 8 years between me and my sister).
If, on the other hand, you'd an older mom (say mid-thirties or older) or you struggled to get pregnant, then maybe you want to make a different choice, and actively try to get pregnant before your LO is a year. It's a tough choice and very personal- because on the one hand a baby does deserve to get to the minimum recommended 1 year of breastfeeding, but on the other hand, your child might not mind that you didn't nurse for a full year if the trade-off was a sibling.
Coolest thing my big girl said recently: "How can you tell the world is moving when you are standing on it?"
Coolest thing my little girl sang recently: "I love dat one-two pupples!"