Re: How to go longer between feedings? Should I?
Welcome to the forum and congratulations on the new baby and on getting to 4 weeks of EBF!
I don't think you're going to like my answer to your question, which is that you should not space out your baby's daytime feedings until she's over a year old. If the baby chooses to go longer between feedings, that's a different matter. Spaced out feedings are a ticket to low supply, because milk supply is created by the baby's demand. Any time you restrict demand, you also restrict supply.
Now, here's the part that you're really not going to like. Your baby has been giving you a ridiculously easy time so far, and it isn't likely to last. Going 3-3.5 hours between feedings is extremely rare for such a young baby: most babies who are under 6 weeks old are feeding 10-12 times a day or even more frequently, which sometimes means that a mom is feeding every hour or two, for up to an hour at a time! After 6 weeks, a baby may decrease her feeding frequency to about 8X per 24 hour period, but she is likely to increase her nursing frequency during growth spurts or any time an increase in milk supply is required.
At this point, maybe you're going ... but you shouldn't. Nursing a newborn is a lot of work and it's not particularly rewarding, because all newborns do is eat, poop, and cry. But nursing is going to get easier and more pleasant with time- just wait until your LO smiles adoringly up at you with milk dripping off her chin!- so whatever is stressing you out about nursing right now is probably going to grow less stressful with time.
Sleep is a tough one for a lot of moms, even way beyond the newborn period. Some level of night-waking and night nursing is very normal throughout the first year, and many babies continue to wake and nurse into their second or even third year. If you want a realistic look at infant sleep, I suggest taking a look at Elizabeth Pantley's book "The No-Cry Sleep Solution". One tip from that book which is really relevant to your question is that if you want more sleep from your baby at night, feeding her more often during the day may help.
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