Re: help! about to give up...
I would just point out that just because he doesn't look tongue tied doesn't mean he isn't tongue tied. Posterior tongue ties are nasty, sneaky things where the tip of the tongue looks nice and free, but the back of the tongue has limited mobility. Posterior ties can cause latch pain and also poor milk transference. Are your nipples ever lipstick shaped after a feeding? Blanched, or pinched?
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