Re: Things to do before baby comes to get milk in sooner??
There's really nothing you can do ahead of a baby's birth to bring milk in. Drinking tea and eating oatmeal won't hurt- though I would check the ingredients on the tea and make sure they're safe for the baby while he's in utero. What you can do ahead of time is to stock your fridge with heat-and-serve meals (like frozen casseroles), make sure you have lots of help around the house and with the kids even after your MIL goes home, and contact a lactation consultant (preferably an IBCLC), so that if you run into trouble you know where to turn for help.
It is not possible to bring your milk in before the baby is born. Hormones produced by the placenta inhibit milk production, and until the placenta is delivered, you're not going to produce mature milk. So nothing you do at this point is going to make you make milk.
Can you tell us a little more about your experience with your first 2 sons? Not having milk come in for 2 weeks is very, very unusual. Most women will produce milk within 2-5 days of birth, though milk production can be delayed by physiological issues like a retained placenta, and by routine but unnecessary supplementation with formula.
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