I'm new to the forum so hello! I'm a brand-new, first-time Mom to a beautiful (almost) 6 week old little girl.
She and I have had MANY ups and down already with breast feeding. In the hospital we simply could not figure things out, she just didn't want to latch properly, at her 4 day old wellness check the pediatrician told me I NEEDED to go home and give her a bottle because she obviously wasn't getting what she needed. She'd dropped the appropriate amount of weight (was 9lbs 9 ozs at delivery, 9 lbs 3 ozs at discharge and was 8 lbs 14 ozs at her 4 day wellness check) but you could tell she was just hungry, the night before her wellness check as well I was up FOR THREE HOURS with her attempting to feed, after that three hours she woke up an hour later wanting to feed again. So I gave her bottles for a day and a half to get her back to being well fed. I went to a lactation consultant after that day and a half because I was unwilling to give up on breast feeding. We did lots of work, I bought myself a support pillow and we FINALLY got her feeding well! At her 2 week wellness check they weighed her and the scale said 9 lbs 6 ozs, the pediatrician was not satisfied with that weight so told us to go home and feed regularly but supplement a little extra at least 2-3 times a day out of a little syringe inserted in while she sucked on a finger. *Mind you I pumped and gave her expressed milk, she's NEVER had formula!* The pediatrician told us to return the next day to see if she gained a little weight and to see if we were going to have to supplement with formula or not (which I really did NOT want to have to do), the next day when we returned my daughter had SUPPOSEDLY gained a whole 6 ozs! The scale read 9 lbs 12 ozs...this seemed not right to me, so I call the lactation specialest (who I'd seen at least twice by now) to see if we could come weigh our daughter with her scale, she offered to let us drop by whenever, even if we just wanted to weigh her, so I took the offer because, even as the pediatric nurse said, "6 ozs in one day is pretty unheard of" - i thought that ONE of those scale readings was WAY off. She had been weighed at 9 lbs 12 ozs on a Wednesday, on Friday according to the lactation specialist's scale she was 9 lbs 15 ozs, ALMOST 10 LBS! In my heart, I KNEW that that first reading was off. She was successfully back to her birth weight and THEN some!
My daughter and I have visited the lactation specialist a number of times since her birth (probably 4 or 5) for various issues, mostly having to do with latch, and feeding positions and whether she's gaining enough...I feel like the lactation consultant is PERSONAL consultant at this point...and hoping she's not annoyed with me yet.
The last time we visited the consultant she said "don't worry about timing your feedings anymore...just feed on demand"...this i had no problem with...until recently I've started feeling like something isn't right, baby doesn't ever TRULY seem satisfied to me. She's TOTALLY a cluster-feeder, which makes me wonder if I tried to schedule feedings again would that help her be more satisfied and with an improved latch if she'd seem more satisfied? - Like maybe we're not truly ready to JUST be going to on-demand feedings? *Also, baby has a VERY strong intolerance to certain foods I eat, I've had to drastically change my diet so as not to give her gas, we've also had to give her gas drops because of it*
After extensive reading and online searching I've pretty well determined babies latch is shallow and "lazy". My husband has tried helping me help her fix it, but I feel like we're just not getting their and it almost seems like baby prefers a shallow latch, even though it's probably preventing her from getting all she needs.
I have a call out to the lactation consultant to help assist me (REALLY hoping she doesn't think I'm some over-zealous, crazy, over-worried new mom...) but I'm just hoping that we can fix babies latch, or if it's "too late". I feel like with everything we've gone through with breastfeeding, I can't be defeated by a bad latch and SOOOORE nipples...any insight from Mom's that have had similar issues?
Another side note, she does take a pacifier, which the consultant told us at this point is fine...everyone who's seen her (pediatirican and consultant) has determined she's a "non-nutritive sucker"...my only issue with having introduced this though is that I do believe its created some confusion for her...there will be times where she's showing hunger signs, I go to latch her and she starts crying/fussing either as soon as I try to position her or as soon as the milk starts flowing, then we give her the pacifier and she calms down...then sometimes I'll take the pacifier as soon as she's calm and slip the boob in and she seems fine!
Basically...I need some assurance that we can get this issue fixed and baby and I can start TRULY having a good breast feeding experience, where I know FOR SURE she's getting everything she needs.
Thanks for listening to my rant, ladies.