Re: Back at work, twins will only take bottle
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First of all, i have to say that you have gone through a LOT, and so it's no surprise that you're at the end of your tether with the whole breastfeeding thing. Most women in your shoes would have given up a long time ago!
I think the most important thing to remember about breastfeeding is that it does not have to be all or nothing. If you're only able to pump 2x a day, and only able to provide for some of your kids' milk needs, that is OKAY. Some breastmilk is better than none. It's better for the babies to drink it, and better for your health to make it (lactation has a lot of health benefits including decreased incidence of breast cancer and heart disease and obesity).
It sounds like you are trying to get the boys to nurse simultaneously, correct? For a lot of moms, simultaneous nursing is the master skill of breastfeeding. It's not necessarily something that any mom can master right off the bat, and that has to be even more true of a mom whose babies aren't yet that adept at nursing. I think in your shoes I would try to nurse one baby at a time, and have the other one be bottle-fed at the same time, so that the kids are on more or less the same routine. The next time I would switch- the one who got the bottle gets to try the breast instead, and the one who got the breast gets a bottle. If you have the strength, it might be helpful to have the bottle-fed baby finish feedings at the breast; even if he's only on the breast for "comfort" and not for nutrition, you're giving him a chance to retain his latching skills and his love of nursing.
WRT your husband and everyone around you- well, don't bow to their pressure unless you decide that using formula is what YOU want to do. The decision to breastfeed is the most intimate, most personal decision in a woman's life, and IMO only the woman's opinion on nursing counts. It doesn't matter if everyone around her thinks she is going crazy pumping or nursing her heart out when babies do "just fine" on formula. What matters is how that mom will feel if she gives up. If she's going to struggle with a lifetime of guilt, then she needs to soldier on, and tell her critics that if they don't have anything nice or supportive to say, they should keep their mouths shut.
This link may have some useful tips: http://kellymom.com/bf/concerns/child/back-to-breast/
ETA: one last thought- if you haven't pumped in 24 hours, I would haul the machine out and pump now. When you wean, whether that's from the pump or from a nursing baby, you don't want to stop cold turkey. Stopping too quickly sets a mom up for problems with engorgement and discomfort, and potentially for even worse problems like plugged ducts and mastitis. If you're going to wean now, or a year from now, or 3 years from now, go slow. Drop one pumping or nursing session, wait a couple of days, and then drop another, wait a couple of days, etc.
Last edited by @llli*mommal; October 30th, 2012 at 07:19 PM.
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