Re: Pumping to get more sleep?
co-sleeping is the general term for having the baby in the same room with you. so what you're doing is co-sleeping. but bed-sharing is actually what has made the difference in my life, because i don't have to get up or wake up to nurse.
i sleep in a queen bed with DS and the dog. it would be way too crowded with DH here. but we slept at different times before the baby - he's a night owl - so it wasn't that big a transition for us, actually. it seems to me a lot of people do something like this, at least "temporarily" for the year or two their babies are waking frequently. for me, since i work and make the paycheck, getting sleep was non-negotiable.
you might also look into "side-carring" the crib - you can find pics online if you search.
others have said on here, and it's also true in my case, that a lot of the resistance from husbands about co-sleeping with baby (and not with husband) is about concern (valid or not) about getting enough quality time and (ahem) "quality time" with their wives. making sure to find time for my DH does wonders for our relationship in general - sometimes that just means time to hang out together, sometimes it's putting DS down in my bed and sneaking out for sex. it helps that we've got other beds available - a fullsize futon in DH's room, a full size futon in DS's room, and a single daybed in the guestroom/office (yeah, we rent a bigger house than we need). all the mattresses are on the floor.
Nursing, pumping, cloth-diapering, babywearing, working professor mama with the awesomest SAHD ever.