Re: Bottle preference and unsupportive husband :(
Tell your husband to hook himself up to a pump for five minutes and see what it's like. I understand that it's hard to hear a baby fuss, but you are absolutely right that you need to nurse when you are together.
Here is some great info about how to deal with nipple confusion.
This article has some great tips for how your husband can bottle feed your baby in a way that is more conducive to breast feeding success.
I didn't have the problem of my husband wanting to give bottles when I was there, but he did watch our baby during the day and it seemed to give him the feeling that he knew better than me how to deal with her. As much as I could I tried to support him and listen to him, but when it came to nursing...that was my thing and I didn't want him interfering. Try to explain to him that you are away from your baby all day long and when you come home you both need that time to reconnect with each other. That you aren't being selfish by wanting to nurse her, you are maintaining your breastfeeding relationship. Exclusive pumping can be done, but it is hard, hard, hard work and many moms lose their supply or have a hard time keeping up, especially as baby grows. Not to mention the emotional effect it will have on you to be pumping when you WANT to be nursing.
This is just a blip in your nursing journey, mama. You can get past this and continue nursing your baby. Keep talking to your husband.
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