My Baby is 7 weeks old this week And has been gaining weight well but breastfeeding has been really difficult for us and i am now at a place where i have no clue what to do next.
I want to breastfeed more than anything in the world but I am finding this more difficult to do.
I have seen two lactation consultants and had a postpartum doula come in to help with breastfeeding. We first saw an LC after we came home from the hospital, unfortunately we never saw an LC in the hospital and were in desperate need of help to get latched properly when we got home. This LC helped us get latched but my son was still latching shallowly and causing nipple pain. Next we had a doula come in to help, she also helped with BF but couldn't get baby to latch any deeper so we saw another LC. The next LC said that baby had a slight tongue tie but helped us with new positioning to help get Baby attached in laid-back. This worked for about a week and then he would only latch in cradle hold, however I was still dealing with cracked nipples. My doctor took a look at my nipples and prescribed Dr. Newman's triple antibiotic nipple cream, to help with my cracked sore nipples. Finally I have a little nipple relief but now my baby is not latching correctly at all.
It seems that rather than sucking the nipple baby is only taking the nipple and licking- no suction. It seems really weird. I am really not sure what to do at this point as it seems that Baby is getting milk but the process is now really messy, we are both ending up soaked during a feeding and I am not sure how much milk baby is taking in. Baby is also getting frustrated some of the time and wailing at the breast. I believe I have a bit of an over active let down which is why baby can lick and end up with a mouth of milk. Or latch shallowly and end up with a large mouth of milk.
I am to the point of feeling at a loss as to what to do... I really want to breastfeed my baby but he doesn't seem to want to breastfeed. I am also afraid our breastfeeding failure is getting in the way of bonding and our relationship.
Baby is currently having 1 bottle per day given to him by his dad. This has mostly been happening when BFing has been too hard and baby is only licking and the process has become too frustrating.
I have though of turning to pumping and feeding but my breast don't seem to empty as well with a pump and I really like having him close. I also really want to BF for a year and I don't know if pumping and feeding could be sustained for 1 year. I am willing to make the commitment but worry about keeping up milk supply.
I don't know what to do at this point.