Re: milk and fenugreek
i've used fenugreek several times...and it's worked great for me...and i didn't have the problem with baby refusing the nurse when i was taking it. are you sure it's not anything else in your diet? like gassy foods (beans, broccoli, etc)? you can also try eating oatmeal or drinking mother's milk tea (by traditional medicinals) to help increase your supply.
as for your 3month old...according to kellymom.com, "exclusively breastfed babies take in an average of 25 oz (750 mL) per day between the ages of 1 month and 6 months. Different babies take in different amounts of milk; a typical range of milk intakes is 19-30 oz per day (570-900 mL per day)."
Aleina... born on Mother's Day, May 14, 2006...7lbs 4oz, 21.6 inches
Lauryn Elle...January 26, 2008...7lbs 15oz, 20 inches