Even if kids are allowed, take into account your babies acceptance of events like this. Maybe your lo doesn't mind loud our crowded gatherings but mine is on the spirited side. So the wedding I went to when ds was 5 mo was a nightmare. He was awesome and slept through the wedding itself but was totally freaked out by the music at the reception. I was stressing about constantly fending off relatives wanting to hold him. He's a total mama's boy and being passed around just doesn't work. To top it off I was on a dairy free diet bc of ds's allergy and there wasn't a single food without cheese. Next time I'll just say no.