I know this thread is old, but this thread is why I joined today. My husband is the best man in a wedding. We've already expressed a desire to bring my 4 1/2 month old, but the bride wants to keep it "no kids", even though their 1 year old son is in the wedding. It's an evening wedding/reception. I nurse my son to sleep & throughout the night as needed. There is no pattern or routine with him, so I can't go when I think it's safe. He could wake up at any time. I've been struggling to get him to nap during the day & sleep longer at night, but no predictability yet.. Those who don't exclusively breastfeed may not understand how a baby develops preferences. This is not a criticism of their choices. I, however, feel tremendous guilt & criticism for mine. I don't want to just leave my son knowing he will be excessively crying with my mom. I just can't.
Is this a common problem among nursing mothers? The wedding is 2 days away & I still don't know what to do. We've already told them I may not be able to attend the reception. However with the way my son cries with my mother I really feel uncomfortable leaving him for the ceremony too. Reason being- the ceremony starts around his bedtime & he simply wants me at bedtime.
Why do I feel guilt & shame when I should feel proud of my choices? There are certainly a number of "tough love" followers out there that are cornering me. I'm also afraid of how this will affect my husband's friendship with the groom. Thoughts or experiences anyone?