My baby did not nurse until he was 12 weeks old. Never latched in the hospital, never latched with the LC, never latched period. I was advised to try and latch him for 5 minutes prior to giving him a bottle of breast milk ( I was EP'ing). Not only did he not latch, he would scream, arch his back, flail his arms, kick, yell and made it clear that he was having NONE of this.
Then one day at 8 weeks he suddenly acted like he wanted to nurse, so I offered him the breast, and he latched and nursed for a full feeding. I was overwhelmed with joy thinking FINALLY! Then two hours later, he started to get hungry again so I offered to nurse. He threw a fit, screamed, cried etc. So, I gave him a bottle. I tried to nurse him for a few days after that HOPING that he would nurse again. But he didn't. I think I busted out crying at least a dozen times because I was so sad.
4 weeks after that (at 12 weeks of age) he did the same thing, reached for my shirt like he wanted to nurse. So, I offered it to him and we never looked back The first week of nursing was hard work. There were a couple of times he got really upset when I offered him the breast and I was so fearful he would start rejecting nursing again. I had to give him 20-30 seconds of the bottle before each nursing session prior to transitioning him to the breast. For whatever reason, this really worked. About a week later I was able to phase out giving him a little “hit of the bottle" before nursing.
I work FT and he is at day care. Today they told me they are actually having difficulties getting him to take the bottle! So, loooong story short, I know it seems like it will never happen. I can't tell you how many times I sobbed wishing my baby would nurse. I couldn't even look at nursing books or nursing bras or anything related to nursing because I was too upset. I know 8, 12 or 16 weeks can seem like an eternity, and I absolutely thought my baby would never nurse and I would spend a year strapped up to that pump. Slowly and surely, and not without headaches, it did happen. There is hope