I have a generally happy, healthy 6 week old who has gained a ton of weight (6 lb 12 oz at birth to 10 lb 9 oz at 1 month), probably partly thanks to oversupply. That has caused its share of issues but what I've been dealing with today and on other recent occasions doesn't seem to be related.
I've been capping my daughter's time between feedings at 2 hours during the day, to help with the oversupply and possible reflux. This was the pediatricians recommendation, and as soon as I implemented it last week (as opposed to going on demand, constantly watching for hunger cues in my baby, who very often confuses me in that regard!) we had several days of the most blissfully smooth, regular feedings. Today, though, we had a complete regression to this horribly frustrating pattern: baby is sleeping soundly, I notice it's been 3+ hours since her last feeding (which today happened to be a very big/long one for her, hence my decision to let her sleep), I start trying to wake her. She's not hard to rouse generally, but as soon as I get her latched, even if she was rooting and looking very alert and panting---her main hunger cues as far as I can tell--she falls back asleep and is impossible to wake up, except by putting her back down and walking away. Within two minutes she will be screaming in protest. I go over and repeat the same process of latching, watching her suck a couple of times, and falling asleep. This even happens when I've just had a letdown and milk is actively spraying out into her mouth. I also do massage/ breast compressions in desperation at these times. Nothing works. I would be happy at this point to let her keep sleeping, but then things suddenly turn much worse: she reaches the point where it infuriates her if she latches and there isn't immediately something coming out. (I recognize this is just my interpretation but I can't think of any other explanation.) She gets hysterical and is only calmed by being put on my chest. Then when she starts bobbing and rooting again, or after a few calm minutes I'll start to turn her back into position. Immediately she starts crying again, as if remembering the frustration.
My only semi-successful method of trying to break this pattern is "teasing" her with milk dripping from a bottle down into the corner of her mouth while latched, until letdown happens and she's happy, but assuming I can even get her latched it is quite difficult to do alone. Today I had to resort to just bottle feeding her a couple ounces of milk from the freezer and pumping, then going back to trying to BF after a short nap. That cycle repeated from about 2 to 7. It seems to be happening again right now---I'm letting her sleep, but she seemed hungry about an hour ago, I put her on, she fell asleep, I gave her a bath, same thing, and then, just like that, she was too mad to wait and teasing her with the bottle didn't work. I'm dreading when she wakes up now.
I can't imagine this is normal because how could anyone with more than one child function? How could anyone function with this as the norm, period? Am I inadvertently causing this behavior by doing/not doing something? Is there any way to discourage it? Thanks so much for any tips.
(I recognize many people on these forums have serious, much more stressful problems, and I feel guilty even asking about what is essentially an inconvenience, but it has almost put me over the edge not knowing all day WHAT my baby wants/needs, and having to rely on a bottle to get us through the day.)