Re: How do you do it? *vent*
Sometimes fathers have to learn how to soothe their babies, and babies have to learn to accept soothing from their father. It's a learning curve, just like it was with mothers. Remember back when your baby was a newborn, didn't you ever have a time or two when your baby cried, and you just couldn't figure it out? It's heartbreaking for all involved, and there's nothing we can do. We try it all, but nothing works. We just have to keep trying, until we can learn what baby needs.
A similar situation is probably going on here. Daddy is learning how to interact with his child, and the child is learning how to react to daddy. It's another learning curve. Again, heartbreaking for all involved. Baby knows that daddy loves him and cares for him, he's just still not sure exactly what daddy's attempts at soothing him mean. Daddy will learn what works for him. And, what works for you soothing baby may not work for daddy. Daddy may have to learn some completely different techniques than you are used to using. These techniques aren't bad, just different.
You're a great mommy. This will get better.
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