Real quick before I sneak away for some couch time with dh besides utilizing all rooms of our house about once a month we get a babysitter and take ds to them after his nap. Tell them we're going to the movies or lunch but came home instead. Once we got a motel room bc FIL wanted to watch him at our house. Ds wakes as the light sleep stage hits around 45 min so that's the only way we get more than a quickie in. I didn't like it at first, mommy instincts were screaming at me but hubby and I do need the alone time. And the full body massages I get are worth it!