I noticed that there have been several posts from moms desperate for sleep. That's me, too!
My 3 month old had been going down around 10:30, waking aroun 2 (then back to bed by 3:30), waking between 6-7 (asleep about an hour later), then waking around 9-10 to be "up" for the day, aside from napping in the afternoon. He was sleeping in a "Woombie," a zipper sleep sack that kinda looks like a straight-jacket that keeps his arms and legs tightly wrapped. This helped him because he has a terrible startle reflex.
A few days ago we decided to discontinue the Woombie because he is starting to roll over. The first night we put him in a footed sleeper and he woke every 1-2 hours. I can't imagine that he needed to eat all of those times. The last 2 nights I've put him in a Halo sleep sack, wrapping the swaddle tight enough to keep his arms down while he's sleeping but loose enough so that he can get them out if he wakes up and wants to move around. Still, he wakes more frequently than before. Last night he did sleep from 10:30 to 3, but after that good stretch he woke up after maybe 2 hrs, then 45 minutes. This morning I tried comforting, rocking back to sleep, but he wakes as soon as he hits the crib. Letting him "cry it out" also did not work. I was going to feed him, but while I was getting my MBF pillow on, he just wanted to coo and play, so I know he wasn't hungry. This change seems to be directly related to the fact that we have stopped using the Woombie.
This is not good because it translated into only 5 hours of sleep for me and I had a breakdown this morning. I'm ok with getting up once, or even twice, during the night if it means that I can accumulate 7 hours of sleep, but he wakes so frequently that it does not give me time to fall asleep. I feel like a zombie today.
Several questions: How often should a 3 month old wake to breastfeed? How do I know if he's waking because he's hungry (which he's done in the past) or just upset over his new sleeping clothes or having his arms out (which I think he's doing now sometimes)? How do I wean him off the swaddle? I have some sleep sacks that have sleeves or are armless, but he doesn't seem to like to sleep with his arms out. I'm afraid to continue swaddling his arms because I don't want him to roll over like this. When do babies outgrow the Moro/startle reflex?
Any advice will be helpful. So far, friends and family have said "I don't know," or "hang in there, it will get better," neither of which are helpful or comforting to someone who is sleep deprived.