I have 5 weeks old baby. Since the beginning we struggle with the weight gain. I wanted to breast-feed exclusively, but I feel very discouraged by now.
Klara was born with 3.450kg, at 5 days she had 3.360kg, and continued to loose the weight, and at 2 weeks she had 3.300kg. The health visitor told me to begin with top-ups, twice a day. I did one top-up of 120ml during two days and she put on weight 100g. But than I stopped with top-ups, encouraged by reading different breast-feeding stories... One week later, she gained only 20g more and I re-introduced one top-up of 120g per day. Since she put on weight only around 150g-170g per week.
She was 4 weeks and 4 days yesterday and had 3.735g which means that she put barely 300g since she was born.
This all, with a lot of struggle for feeding. I am using nipple shields, as my nipples were cracked and bleeding. So far, I am decided to breast-feed with shields.
At the beginning, I was sitting with Klara on my breast 24/24. After reading some more about how can I manage my breast-feeding differently, I began to pay more attention on her swallowing the milk and do more active feeding sessions. She eventually detach herself from my breast, looking satisfied and half-asleep. But if I put her down, she would immediately cry for some more food. There were few moments when she was happy after feeding, but it all seems very irregular, and I don't know what to think about all this, what is wrong, and how to continue from there.
If I try feeding on demand, than it means that I feed 24/24, which is physically and mentally not possible for me. And I saw during first weeks, it did not work either.If I try to regulate her hunger, ignore she cries, and instead put her a dummy, get her to the sling than she falls asleep, to wake up 3 hours latter for bigger feed, than I feel like I let her hungry, and because she does not put on weight, than this is not to do, right??? Well... I am just lost.
When I feed her, I switch my breast after a while, when she detached herself twice from the same breast, I switch to the other... so in these 2 hours she would have twice one breast, than twice the other.
In the night, she wakes up every 2- 3 hours, I feed laying down so I can rest, and she detach herself and sleeps till the next feed.
So basically, if I only breast-feed, she does not put on weight, I have to go for top-ups. And this gives me impression that all the breast-feeding is over complicated, that I make myself the life hard and stressful for nothing, my baby does not get anything from it, and can only get it from artificial milk. It makes me feel low and discouraged.
I would appreciate any comment, as I would really like to find a solution to my problem and save the breast-feeding.