My 11-month daughter has recently rejected all pacifiers (she is ADAMANT about it!) which is making going to bed at night extremely challenging: every brief awakening turns into a full-on freak out.
We used to co-sleep from her first wake-up, but now her first wake-up is 30 minutes after I put her down and unlike before, where she would often re-settle herself with a pacifier or with minimal rocking, she won't let me leave her either in our bed or move her to the crib. My only option seems to be to go to bed with her 30 minutes after her bedtime (which is when she wakes up for the first time). This is wrecking havoc on my evenings and making me (and my husband) miserable. We don't have time to talk to each other anymore.
I've tried Pantley's pull-off method, but it's a total bust (she just cries). I've tried CIO, but I couldn't go through with it after the first 10 minutes and it still haunts me: listening to my baby desperately wail is just not for me. Jay Gordon's method seems similar to Pantley's idea and I just don't see how it's going to work. My DD is a very stubborn baby, she would cry and cry and cry until she gets what she wants (the boob).
Any advice? I know babies grow, mature, and this is just a phase, but she is soon a toddler and I've seen no improvement in her sleep (in fact since the pacifier rejection things have gotten worse!). I feel stuck