Is there a certain age where it's okay to allow baby to sleep as long as they want at night? When we met with the LC after my daughter was born, her recommendation was to allow only one 4-5 hour stretch per day and otherwise try for at least 8-12 feedings per day. I've just stuck with that recommendation, but my daughter is now 11.5 weeks old and I'm wondering if that recommendation is still best?
I typically feed her when I want to go to bed (last night it was 10pm), then I set my alarm to wake her about 4.5-5 hours later (if she hasn't woken on her own), then again 2.5-3 hours later (again, unless she wakes up first) and then it's daytime and she's awake more.
I ask because she used to wake up On her own to eat (usually quite close to when my alarm was set), but lately she is really hard to wake up overnight. I have no idea how long she would actually sleep because I have never let her sleep all night.
Is it okay to just let her sleep as long as she wants now? Or should I maybe lengthen that first sleep to see if she's easier to wake? Right now I spend 15 minutes trying to rouse her enough to even open her mouth (she doesn't dreamfeed - she has to be awake at least in the beginning before she'll even open wide).
And the past couple of nights I've actually turned off my alarm and accidentally gone back to sleep for 30 minutes. Just tired...
She sleeps right next to me in a cosleeper