Our baby is 7 weeks and a few days, was born at 37.5 weeks. I was induced b/c of low fluids but successfully had a VB. She's a nurse all the time, needs to be held baby, which is fine while I am home, but the closer my return to work date gets the more concerned I get. Unless she's nursing, sleeping or being held while in motion (arms or sling not car), she's crying and motion doesn't work indefinitely. Unless she is in a deep sleep, she cries in a car seat, a swing with motor, or lying down anywhere but on us. More than 1/2 our diaper changes bring tears as she's placed on the changing table. I'm very hands on - hold her as much as she needs it and co sleep, but we have very few minutes in the day where she's just plain ol alert. There are short bursts but they're getting shorter, not longer. When those rare times do occur I read, talk to her, sing or do some development activity. We just started testing bottles of pumped milk given by my husband with me out of the house and she drinks them very fast (ex 1st oz last night in a matter of min and she had already nursed). I've explained to him that she'll do that and that he's got to slow her down to avoid overfeeding but he disagrees and says she's hungry. He will be her daytime caregiver w/someone else part time if I can find a good fit.
So the issue in summary: how do I go back to work at 12 wks and leave a baby who is inconsolable most of the day unless at the breast or being held and walked (I have the greater patience for this) and how do I leave her with a caregiver, my husband, who loves her dearly but claims he can't over feed her and does not have the patience for so many 1/2 hour walk n rocks? I'm really struggling with this but I'm not in a position to take more leave and I'm not optimistic she's going to change in the next 4 weeks. I read 'why does it seem like I'm nursing all the time?" and it was SO comforting except the author of the post didn't have to return to a job.