Treating your child with love and respect doesn't create bad habits. What is the "bad" habit that these folks fear-- that your child will love and trust you, and seek out your care when it's needed?
Telling you to stop is, to me, akin to saying you should stop loving your husband because he'll "expect" you to kiss him, hug him, talk to him, etc. Baloney! Human relationships are designed for human interaction.