Re: Really need help with my 4-day old
hi mama, congratulations!!
it's great that you already have milk, which means - whatever else was happening over the last 3 days - your DD was nursing/latching enough to bring milk in. you say you have an oz every 2-3 hours - how do you know? are you pumping?
so to be clear - has she eaten at all today? you seem to be saying that she hasn't had anything at all, and that concerns me. how many wet diapers has she had? if this is the situation, i think i would recommend supplementing (can you pump or hand-express and use the syringe?) to get through the night, and getting some hands-on help from an IBCLC tomorrow. if she's not nursing at all, you also will need to express milk one way or another so that you continue to cue your body to produce.
if she IS actually eating at all, then things are not so urgent/extreme. many little babies will eat better when they're sleepy or sleeping. sometimes taking a warm bath together really helps too, especially for a brand new baby - it's almost like reenacting birth, and babies are more willing to nurse in the bath. and when babies get too hungry, they have a hard time latching, so you want to catch her before she fully wakes up, before she's really hungry. supplementing a little with the syringe might be good, just to take the edge off before she latches on for the rest of the feed.
either way, DON'T give up now! you can totally do this. i think you should look for an IBCLC who can come give you hands-on help in any case, preferably tomorrow but monday if necessary. keep your milk flowing, keep your DD eating, even if that means supplementing with pumped milk or formula for tonight. if you can get her to latch, even for 30 seconds at a time, that's better, and she will get some milk that way.
but describe to us in more detail what's going on, what happens tonight: will she latch? how often and for how long? are you pumping? how many wet & poopy diapers does she have? anything else of note?
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