Re: slow weight gain? fussy eater? help!
The best indicators of poor supply are poor weight gain and low diaper output. All other things- like pumping to see how much you're making or gauging supply based on feelings of fullness or on how often the baby nurses- are just too individual to each mama/baby pair to be decent indicators.
In your shoes, I'd really want to see an IBCLC, even if that means a long journey. And I'd also want to get my hands on a professional quality scale. By weighing baby before and after nursing, you can determine exactly how much milk she is taking in while feeding. When diaper output is good but weight gain is slow- i.e. the two best indicators of supply are telling different stories, as in your baby's case- it can really help to use the scale. You want several days' worth of data. One snapshot measurement won't tell you much, since the amount a baby takes in while nursing can vary a lot. A single feeding may be much better or much worse than average.
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