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    Default Having to apologize for bf at 2yrs

    Had to apologize for bf my 2 yrs twins tonight to my family. I am not really ashamed but felt like it tonight. They were preemies and I could bring them to breast until I brought them home three months later and could not fully bf until three months past that. We are not going to have more babies so I am enjoying our two times a day. My cousin bf but hated it and weaned early so made me feel bad that I am still doing it. Sad that society frowns on doing something that was normal prior to the introduction of formula.

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    Default Re: Having to apologize for bf at 2yrs

    What on earth would you apologize?!
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    Default Re: Having to apologize for bf at 2yrs

    Indeed. WHY did you aopologize exactly?

    Way too lazy for formula

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    Default Re: Having to apologize for bf at 2yrs

    Agree w/ PP's.
    Nursing two year old children is what keeps our species thriving. Your breastmilk is nutritious, filled with proper electrolytes and anti-bodies.
    there is no other food source more appropriate for your child and even if they are nursing twice a day, your breastmilk is fulfilling a human need.
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    Default Re: Having to apologize for bf at 2yrs

    I can totally relate. I haven't had to explain that I'm "still"BFing my 15-mo old, but we haven't been at another family members house when she has wanted to nurse for a while. My MIL is the worst. I've decided the next time she asks is Im "still" BFing I'm going to ask if she's "still" smoking. And if she doesn't want me to bug her about quitting, she shouldn't bug me either.

    I agree, it's something we understand the health and other benefits, but our society as a whole doesn't get it, nor do they consider it normal.

    Can you time your visits outside of nursing so it's a non issue? Sometimes it's easier to avoid the subject altogether so nobody is stressing about it.

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    Default Re: Having to apologize for bf at 2yrs

    Sometimes it helps to just stare at people and say "Wow, you seem to be extremely interested in my personal choices. Why is that?" That sort of conversational jujitsu can flip the issue around- instead of you having to defend why you're "still" nursing, the questioner has to defend their nosiness.
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    Default Re: Having to apologize for bf at 2yrs

    BF until 2 years is honorable if babies and mama are mutually satisfied. You don't need to justify your choice to BF to anyone, let alone apologize.

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    Default Re: Having to apologize for bf at 2yrs

    Of course as a fellow nursing mama to a toddler, I don't think you need to apologize for anything. But I understand family clashes on this issue & perhaps it keeps the peace. Just know that you are an awesome mama & your kids are blessed by you as you are blessed by them. We all support you!

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    Default Re: Having to apologize for bf at 2yrs

    One thing I've learned - never apologize for something unless you're REALLY sorry (and even then, be careful - btw, this rule does not apply within a marriage ). When you apologize for anything, people think you've actually done something wrong. Apologizing when you haven't done anything wrong just makes the people around you think you HAVE done something wrong. And you haven't. You're doing something WONDERFUL.


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    Default Re: Having to apologize for bf at 2yrs

    In my family i am the first one BF this long (17 months) and when someone asks me : when will you stop? I say: probably when she starts going to the university

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