Re: Pumping exclussively and need help!
Well my experience was very similar. My LO couldn't latch onto my somewhat flat nipples, and for the first 5 weeks I had to pump. After that I finally got him to latch with a shield, which he couldn't do before 5 weeks. After 11 weeks, I finally weaned him from that.
Don't worry too much about whether or not you'll be able to pump enough for her. Just pump every 2-3 hours, without going longer than 5 hours between (at least that's what I read in "Breastfeeding Made Simple." Great book!). That's what I did, and although I was constantly strressing about being able to pump enough, my supply increased as his needs did. Eventually, as your supply increases, it may be wise to keep a little extra frozen milk. Not much; even a few ounces was a lifesaver for me when I fell asleep when I actually needed to pump, and my LO woke up without a fresh bottle ready!
I've read that your milk should be fine at room temp under very clean conditions for 6-8 hours. So just wash or sanitize your hands before pumping, keep it in a closed bottle, etc. If I ever wasn't sure how long I'd have some milk out, I'd put it in the fridge, then take it out an hour or so before I thought he's need it, so it had time to warm up. But remember, milk doesn't necessarily have to be warm - most babies just prefer it.
Don't worry, I thought I was doomed to pump forever, so I prepareed myself to face that reality. Maybe it'll take your LO longer than it did mine, but eventually, I'm sure she'll be able to figure it out.
I'm not sure about the fussiness, but it sounds like it probably is just gas, which is perfectly normal!
I'm Erin, wife to a wonderful husband, and first time mother of Baby Will - 05/13/2012
"Keep calm and latch on!"