Re: ladies... please help. im desperate.
Your situation has a few components.
1. you are sleep deprived
2. Your LO waits till the nighttime to do the majority of his feeds
3. Your DCP hasn't figured out a way to get your baby fed.
#3 is independent of the other 2. for even if your LO started to eat/drink your breastmilk there is no guarantee he would not want/need you overnight.
although I was not a working mommy, I was so distracted/busy with dd1 and dd2 that ds3 waited until everyone else was asleep to get his one on one mommy time.
I bought an inexpensive futon, put it on the floor and coslept with ds3.
DH had our bed to himself and he was glad of it. We still found time to be consenting adults and I believe that the cheap futon on the floor saved my sanity and my marriage.
DD#1 July 1986 VB
DD#2 April 1988 c/sec
DS#3 April 1990 VBAC
DS#4 June 1993 VB
DD#5 April 2001 c/sec
BTDT scars and stretchmarks,: wrinkles and grey hair