Re: Toddlers and loving guidance ... for New Beginnings!
My third child was a high need toddler. He needed to be held from morning to night, he needed to sleep next to me, he could not tolerate any separation. he was also way too adventurous when given the opportunity. he would climb the book shelves, pull the heads off his sister's dolls, throw everything in the toilet and put dangerous things into his mouth.
i kept him safe and maintained peace with in our household by
1. Wearing him in a sling
2. sleeping with him on the floor in a futon
3.letting him wear the same pajamas 24/7 for months at a time, and letting him be naked when he took off all his clothes.
I did not make any demands on his behavior. i did not expect him to put away his toys, or eat his snacks only in the kitchen, or even share with his sisters.
i did not have discipline issues because i did not expect him to behave or be "good".
By the time he was 4 years old he was the most docile well behaved happy little boy on the block. He never hit his playmates, he shared with everyone and loved going to nursery school.
DD#1 July 1986 VB
DD#2 April 1988 c/sec
DS#3 April 1990 VBAC
DS#4 June 1993 VB
DD#5 April 2001 c/sec
BTDT scars and stretchmarks,: wrinkles and grey hair