that is how I read it too, esthervegan.ahwajo2, everything else you described could actually be normal, on its own. But the weight loss/lack of gain is NOT. Sometimes weight gain concerns are due to improperly done weight checks, so just know that baby should be measured on the same scale either naked or in a dry diaper every time going forward, if possible.he has not gained any weight his birth weight was 6lbs 1 oz, and he is now weighing 5lbs 5oz.. the our family practice doc is very very concerned, and he is reluctantly telling me to supplement with formula. I am a failure.
When a baby does not gain as appropriate at the breast there are three rules. 1) feed the baby. This means supplement if and as much as needed. 2) protect milk supply (this means nurse as much as you can and pump as well-even if you are not getting much when pumping, pump.) and 3) get help, preferably help from an EXPERIENCED and RECOMMENDED IBCLC, preferably. You can also call your local LLL.
Once you have figured out how to get baby fed, you can work on figuring out what the problem is-low milk supply, baby unable to transfer milk, baby needing to nurse more often, some combination? And you can work on correcting those issues.
Very rarely, some mothers truly are unable to ever make "enough" milk for their babies. But they can usually make SOME, and breastfeeding can continue, modified, as needed. This is called defining your own success and is an alternative to chastising yourself as a failure for something outside of your control. Every drop of breastmilk and every moment spent at the breast has benefits for you and your baby.
Also I suggest you examine your feelings. Why in the world would you feel guilt? Frustration, concern, fear for your baby's health, anger this is happening - I understand. But not guilt. You have done nothing wrong.
I suggest the books The Womanly Art of Breastfeeding (8th edition, 2010) and Making More Milk.