Re: Fussy period at night
Fussy evenings are textbook normal with a month-old baby. They are a developmental stage, and have nothing to do with nursing or with something you're doing/not doing. Count yourself lucky that you're only getting a few hours of fussiness, and that your baby will nurse through it, albeit with that on-and-off, flailing behavior. A lot of babies will scream bloody blue murder for hours on end, and many of them refuse to nurse during that time.
Here are some strategies that can help you through evening fussiness:
- Nurse. As much as possible!
- Calm house. Lights, tv, and stereo down or off.
- White noise. Status on the radio or the sound of the vacuum running.
- Warm bath.
- Fresh air. Take baby outside for a change of scenery.
- Motion. Rock in a rocker, bounce on an exercise ball, stroll in a stroller, car ride, swing.
- Closeness. Snuggle baby close in a sling.
You cannot overfeed a breastfed baby at the breast, so your husband can stop worrying about that. The reason breastfed babies don't get overfed is that the baby is in charge of the feeding. The moment the baby is no longer hungry, her suckling will become gentle and slow, and as a consequence the milk flow will slow to a trickle or stop. This is totally different from how babies eat when given a bottle. When a baby is bottle-fed, the adult is in charge of the feeding, and even the most sensitive bottle-feeding parent will tip a bottle up to get baby to hurry the feeding along or finish the bottle. Also, the bottle delivers the same rapid flow regardless of whether the baby is sucking for comfort or for nutrition. A baby who is comfort-sucking on a bottle will get the same fast flow of milk as she did when she was sucking for food, and she will choke if she doesn't swallow.
It's normal for breastfed babies to feed very frequently, since unlike bottle-fed babies they tend to take in small amounts of milk more often, and because infant tummies are very tiny, and because breastmilk digests very fast.
If you're concerned that your baby is growing too fast and will end up fat, you don't need to be. Breastfed babies oftenngain weight very rapidly in their first few weeks/months, but they slow down around the middle of their first year as they become more mobile and start devoting more calories to action (reaching, rolling, kicking, crawling, etc.) instead of packing them on as fat.
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