Re: Fussy nursing/ low supply at night, teething?
In general, all a mom needs to do is to nurse on demand and not supplement and that will maintain her milk supply at the right level. Once a mom has been nursing for a while, it is normal for her supply to adjust to meet her baby's demand very precisely, without a lot of extra milk left over. This is desirable, because making extra milk is a waste of energy and puts a mom at increased risk for things like plugged ducts and mastitis. When supply suddenly adjusts to demand, the following are normal:
- No longer feeling full or engorged except when baby skips multiple feedings in a row
- Decreased or absent letdown sensation
- Decreased/absent leaking
- Reduced pump output (if mom is pumping)
- Baby may fuss at the breast or appear fussy after feedings
- Baby may require both breasts at a feeding, even if one breast was enough in the past
Basically, what I'm trying to say is that what you're experiencing is likely normal, and not a sign of low supply. But- and this is a big one- you are taking the mini-pill, and starting that seems to coincide with your perception of a drop in supply. The mini-pill is not supposed to affect supply, but there are enough anecdotal reports of supply reduction with the mini-pill to make me believe that for some women, the mini-pill is not compatible with maintaining a good supply. The nice thing about the mini-pill is that if it is affecting you, on-demand nursing should allow your supply to rebound pretty much as soon as you stop taking the pill and stop supplementing.
So in your shoes, I'd stop the mini-pill, find another form of contraception, and nurse, nurse, nurse!
I would ignore your husband and MIL's uninformed advice about solids. My pediatrician would tell you that for the first year, breastmilk or formula alone are sufficient to supply all a baby's nutritional needs, and solids are for fun with new tastes, textures, and motor skills only. Your goal when you start solids is not to try to get baby to eat and replace breastmilk in her diet- it's to allow baby to start exploring and enjoying solid food without any expectation that she will actually eat it. And since breastmilk provides complete and balanced nutrition, and solids generally don't, it's unlikely that solids will increase your baby's weight gain.
When you take the baby in for a checkup, don't be alarmed if her weight-for-age percentile has slipped a bit. Breastfed babies often gain weight relatively quickly during the newborn period, and then slim down starting around the middle of the first year, as they devote increasing amounts of calories to motion (reaching, rolling, crawling, sitting) and fewer to far.
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