Re: Time to wean my 2 year old?
We had the same bed set up as you with Lilah. I don't have any opinions on your weaning questions, other than that you're well on your way there. My husband basically night-weaned Lilah for me when she was a little bit younger than your daughter - he took over bedtime and then I would go in there and co-sleep with her after her first night-waking. Then about three months after that he took over the whole night and she didn't put up a fuss about that at all. She did put up a huge fuss for the first week or so about not nursing to sleep anymore, but I was pregnant and it had to be done. I am not much for sleep training.
I did wean Lilah at 25 months and I thought it would be much more traumatic than it was. She is a happy, well adjusted almost 4 year old.
ETA: I wanted to add that my husband would go sleep in Lilah's room with her in her full size bed if she needed someone. He still does, or brings her back to our bed, which is fine since I'm only in our room for the beginning of the night anyway. We have an 18 month old that I cosleep with after her first night-waking.
Lilah 10/08 nursed 25 months
Beatrix 01/11 nursed 30 months