Hi all! I have been lurking around for a few weeks and doing lots of reading. I don't know if it helps or just confuses me more. So here is my story and I appreciate any and all feedback/help/suggestions or just flat out encouragement.
My baby girl is 6 weeks old. We have had a breast feeding problem from day 1. She has a tiny little mouth and I've got ginormous nipples and so she has had a problem latching. To make matters worse, my left side is a 'flat' nipple. So in the hospital we used a nipple shield to help her latch. I have since stopped using the nipple shield after reading how it can affect supply. We were exclusively BFing for the first 2 weeks but she did not gain any weight so I was told to pump and supplement if needed.
Here is my current routine - when she shows signs of hunger I will nurse her, then give her 2oz of either formula or breast milk, then I will pump. I don't know if this is the right way to do things or not...
Now, at her 1 mth appt she gained a lb and so the Dr was happy with that. It was about an oz a day weight gain. I asked her if I could start eliminating bottles. She doesn't want me to since were weight gain is just ideal not over the top.
Baby girls latch is getting so much better on the right side and she actively sucks for about 3-5 minutes. After that she will do the occasional suck. As for the left side, well I've started using a nipple shell to help pull it out. This seems to help a little but it's still new and she doesn't seem to suck like she does on the right. I should say that she's always been a lazy nurser and always falls asleep straight away. Now that she's sucking a little I see a tiny light at the end of the tunnel.
I guess my question is - how do I know if she's getting enough milk from nursing? I don't think she is since she doesn't really seem to get much from the left breast.
I want so bad to EBF but I don't know how to get her to actively suck and get anything from the left side. When I pump I always seem to get 1-1.5oz from the left side. That's another thing, I don't know if my supply is good or not. I've been taking fenugreek and mothers milk tea.
She has gotten better and so that's what makes me stick with it. And I have read from other mothers who have it work after a couple months. I want to stick it out its just so hard and takes so long for a feeding. I love nursing her but my Dr has said it's not so good to just let her sit there and use me as a pacifier (as she does sometimes) since she will burn more calories than she's taking in.
I just don't know. I would love any input from you wise ladies! This is my first baby and I'm just on my own with this. My husband is pretty supportive but the rest of my family just doesn't understand why I don't just give her a bottle. I'm sorry this is so long and rambling - too many questions of the unknown! I just need some reassurance that I'm doing the right thing or a push in the right direction.
Thanks for any help you can provide!!