Re: Large breast for small mouth and has come to prefer bott
Welcome to the forum and congratulations on the new baby! I'm sorry he had to come out so early and spend time in the NICU. I know that's really challenging.
It is definitely possible for your baby to master breastfeeding a month from now. But "possible" is not the same as "certain"! Every day that goes by without him being at the breast, the chances of him learning to nurse decrease. Many moms make the mistake of thinking that because breastfeeding is so difficult in the early days, they will just wait for the baby to be bigger and stronger and more "ready", and then they'll try breastfeeding. But that's usually counterproductive, because the more the baby gets the idea that food = bottle and the less time he spends at the breast, the less likely he is to want to master the finicky art of nursing. The less time baby spends at the breast, the greater the chances that you'll be stuck exclusively pumping, and you do not want to do that for many reasons (it's harder to maintain supply, it's more time consuming and expensive, etc.). So I strongly advise you to spend as much time nursing as possible, and help your baby get the idea that the breast is where he wants to be.
Here is what I would do in your shoes:
1. Contact a lactation consultant, preferably an IBCLC, for hands-on help with latching and positioning. She can also help you with pumping- make sure you have the right pump and shields.
2. Talk to your child's pediatrician about how much supplementing you need to be doing. If you are reassured that you only need to offer x number of supplemented bottles per day, that can free you up to work on nursing.
3. Every time baby takes a bottle, pump.
4. Use an excellent pump, preferably hospital grade.
5. Put baby to the breast as often as possible. Don't get trapped in the "it's just this one time/just this one day/just one more feeding" mindset when it comes to the bottles. Now is the time to make the time and effort investment in nursing the baby directly!
6. Try to finish bottle feedings with time at the breast. You want your baby to associate the breast with comfort, relaxation, satiation, sleepiness, and pleasure- all feelings that are maximized at the end of a feeding.
Nursing a newborn is awkward for everyone, first time mom or not. But the only way you get better at something is to practice.
Let us know how it goes!
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