Hi there, some of you may remember me posting quite a few times a while back re OS/OALD. Well my baby is 8months old now and nursing is going much better! She doesn't generally refuse anymore, although will only nurse when she is ready, if I offer when she doesn't show signs of wanting to feed, then she doesn't tend to take any. She still chokes quite a lot, but will pop on and off quite happily until let down has stopped. I nursed D1 until 2 and half years old with similar problems, she self weaned when D2 was born(sadly for me). I fed D1 on demand but her demand followed a regular pattern each day. By 8 months, she always nursed to sleep and always slept at the same time each day. I nursed one side per feed, if she ever asked to nurse between feeds ie if she was upset or a bit thirsty, I would offer her the side that she last fed on. Because her routine was so predictable, my boobs would always feel ready to feed as nursing approached (until i got pregnant again) but were not bursting. The problem that I am now having with D2 is that her nursing pattern is REALLY unpredictable, she nearly always wants to nurse to sleep but her sleeps are all over the place! I find it really difficult to get her to sleep for longer than 40 mins at a time during the day and she likes to nurse to sleep in the carrier and stay in it for her sleep. If I try to put her down, she immediately wakes up! Because of her short nap times, she tends to nap 3 or 4 times a day and I nurse her on one side only before a nap and the other side at the next nap. She didn't sleep well last night (we co sleep) so this morning I was really tired so decided to try and nurse her in bed before her nap so that I could get some sleep. She usually nurses and naps about half an hour after she finishes her breakfast, but this morning would only nurse briefly and then wanted to play with her sister. About an hour after, she wanted to nurse again, so like I said earlier, I nursed her in bed and I offered her the same side, as she had not nursed that well on it. She nursed really well and we fell asleep and she stayed latched on for about an hour and then came off and continued to sleep for another half an hour. She woke at 11.30am ish, usually she will nurse to sleep again somewhere around this time, but this morning, did not want to nurse then as she obviously wasn't tired and was not really hungry as she had stayed latched till 11am (because of my OS she still seems to get quite a lot of milk even when just comfort sucking). My left boob had therefore not been nursed on since 5.30am ish and she had not had that much off it then. By 1.30pm ish she is still not really interested in nursing as not hungry yet and not tired because of her long sleep, therefore I am getting really full. My 1st child didn't really snack, but always had big feeds. I am struggling to work out which side to offer her at the next feed after she snacks and also struggling to understand how my boobs can possibly adapt to such unpredictablility? I am sure that they are meant to be able to cope as is that not what feeding on demand means? Surely I should be able to go with the demands of my baby? Am I doing something wrong? Should I swap sides next time if she only snacks? I tend not to as i try to let her have a good feed on one side before swapping, thinking that if i swap too often, i will exacerbate my OS and she won't get so much hind milk. I think that my OS is as good as it is going to get. Is what I am experiencing normal? I kind of just can't get my head round how demand feeding works if your baby constantly changes what and when they demand. It seems that everything is ruled by when and how long she sleeps for, for the most part, she will not go to sleep without nursing, so if she isnot hungry when she is due to sleep or if She is hungry but not tired, everything seems to go wrong, she ends up being really tired but not hungry so won't go to sleep. Also if she takes a longer nap and stays latched, she the kind of misses out the next feed and my boobs are ready for that feed. Please tell me that it is not as scientific as it seems as I am getting really confused! One day, she has big feeds, the next day she snacks, thenext day she does half and half, one day she nurses 6 times and the next day 9! How does my supply adapt to that, I just don't understand. Also if I let her sleep in the carrier, she doesn't sleep for long but if I put her down she immediately wakes up. If I nurse her to sleep in bed, she sleeps longer but I can't leave her on the bed alone, if I move her she wakes up, I can't keep leaving my 3 yr old on her own for an hour or two whilst I nap(although i need the sleep). I feel very tied as she won't nurse unless everything is timed exactly right for her, I can't even get to the doctor or the dentist as I can't predict when she will nurse and if I offer before my appointment, she won't take it(which means if ican't nurse for another hour, I end up very full and she ends up tired and hungry). I can't believe that breastfeeding should be this restrictive? Sorry for the long winded post but it is really difficult to explain what I mean not in person. Thanks for reading!