I have had (and I'm still having) a very rough start in breasfeeding. Since day 1, the pain has been unbearable. My nipples are broken all the time and very very sore. The problem is a shallow latch and possibly a wrong position.
My baby is now a little more than three weeks old. Things got better when she was about 2 weeks old, for a few feeds on the left nipple, and for a few days on the right one. I honnestly have no idea why it got better and why it got back to an unbearable plain.
A consultant came to my place on wednesday and told me the problem was that my baby was not properly latched-on. She doesn't open her mouth enough and my nipples don't go deep enough. This results in broken nipples and excruciating pain.
She tried to put her properly but didn't manage to do so. She tried so many times that my left nipple became extremely sore. So sore I was afraid again to feed my baby (but I did, fear not).
She told me I should remove her from the breast every time she doesn't take it properly and that eventually she would understand that when she opens her mouth big, she gets to eat.
The problem is that when she opens her mouth enough, she opens and closes it so so so quicky and repeatedly. I never have time to latch her on, or it is really really rare.
In the end of the feeding, once she releases my nipple, it's all flattened and has a white line on it. She's pinching it (well, them).
She obviously doesn't have any problem (frenulum or whatever) because I managed to feed her painlessly on both sides several times.
So here is my question : how can I get my baby to open her mouth slowly with tongue out and all like in all the nice videos we see on the internet?
I tried gibing her when she's half asleep. Either she doesn't care and pinches her lips to let me know she doesn't want to eat, or she wakes up suddenly and goes all crazy as if she had been already crying out of hunger (very fast movements, hands on the way, rooting quickly, getting frustrated, etc.)
I fear every feeding but I don't want to and won't give up. I know the problem is fixable and I know it is not a big problem. But this whole pain all the time is becoming a real problem. I am crying several times a day, and I am losing patience. I really need this to be fixed asap. I am afraid it will (or already has) have negative effects on my relationship with my baby.
Thanks for your attention.