Re: 14 week old eating like crazy and doesn't sleep!
Hi mama, sounds like you're having a tough time! You're right, the best thing to do is continue to nurse on demand. Maybe it's a growth spurt, maybe it's teething, whatever it is, a 14 week old's "wants" really are "needs". And the only constant is that everything changes, just when you finally have it down.
So - coping strategies - you've got to find a way to get more sleep, and this might take some creativity and some adjustment in your expectations. Even a half hour rest/nap is better than nothing. With DS, he would only sleep half an hour on his own, but on a chest or next to me or DH in bed, he'd go for an hour or two. DH took a LOT of naps that way with DS. So I'd encourage you to revisit that option.
My sleeping patterns changed completely when I had DS - I sleep much lighter now - but i think the reason is so that I am able to respond to him at night (we bed-share). In other words, light sleeping is what seems NORMAL to me as a mom of a young baby. As he gets older, more sturdy, sleeps longer, I find I am starting to sleep more deeply again. I coped by spending a lot of time in bed - starting at birth I would be in bed with DS for about 12 hours a nights - and 12 hours of interrupted light sleep was totally enough for me to feel rested. Yes, this means giving up evenings for awhile, but I needed to be rested for work, so for those months, that was the priority. Now around a year all of a sudden I can nurse him to sleep, then get up for an hour and do some housework or hang with DH, and go back to bed. It's amazing! But I still need more than 8 hours to feel rested.
Have you seen this side-lying tutorial?
DS 6/7/11 - Still night & morning nursing, but the rest of the time he just doesn't have time for me! After mostly working at home, gleefully packed away the pump at 11 months.
Another on the way in October 2013!