Re: 14 week old eating like crazy and doesn't sleep!
Hi mama, sounds like you're having a tough time! You're right, the best thing to do is continue to nurse on demand. Maybe it's a growth spurt, maybe it's teething, whatever it is, a 14 week old's "wants" really are "needs". And the only constant is that everything changes, just when you finally have it down.
So - coping strategies - you've got to find a way to get more sleep, and this might take some creativity and some adjustment in your expectations. Even a half hour rest/nap is better than nothing. With DS, he would only sleep half an hour on his own, but on a chest or next to me or DH in bed, he'd go for an hour or two. DH took a LOT of naps that way with DS. So I'd encourage you to revisit that option.
My sleeping patterns changed completely when I had DS - I sleep much lighter now - but i think the reason is so that I am able to respond to him at night (we bed-share). In other words, light sleeping is what seems NORMAL to me as a mom of a young baby. As he gets older, more sturdy, sleeps longer, I find I am starting to sleep more deeply again. I coped by spending a lot of time in bed - starting at birth I would be in bed with DS for about 12 hours a nights - and 12 hours of interrupted light sleep was totally enough for me to feel rested. Yes, this means giving up evenings for awhile, but I needed to be rested for work, so for those months, that was the priority. Now around a year all of a sudden I can nurse him to sleep, then get up for an hour and do some housework or hang with DH, and go back to bed. It's amazing! But I still need more than 8 hours to feel rested.
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