I'm kind of stuck with a situation that I'm hoping maybe someone can give me some advice (not a book) on what to do. I've started weaning my son about a month ago. He's almost 14 months, this is something I really want to do at this point. He eats great durring the day and at dinner time, has no problem taking a sippy cup, he basically seems to be ready as well. Of course if he sees my breast he wants to nurse, but is very easily distracted and often stops after a few short minutes. Well what my problem really is, is I'm becomming so incredibly engorged. It's so painfull, I'm leaking all over the place, and I always end up waking up my son just so I feel better. I feel like I'm creating a visious circle. What can I do that will help minimise the pain and engorment and not keep stimulating me to let down as start all over after a few hours. I've cut down to 1 nursing at night, and he's gone to bed for the last 4 nights without nursing, so yes.. I'm happy, but in a great deal of pain. Dose the cabbage thing really work? If I hand express just a little will it make it just as bad for me later on? Or do I just suffer with this pain?